How do I set a Room Mate boundry agreement?

I just rented a room in my home to help with my house payment and catch up on bills. I thought I would be able to handle it. My new room mate is a young lady with medical issues, which is no problem, but her constant following me around and TALKING and the smell that now comes from her room. Not to mention the cockroaches she brought with her... She seems to think I am her extended familey. Wants to know when I will be home for dinner, when we will be able to run HER errands if and when we are going to church on Sun. I don't want to hurt her feelings, but not being able to come out of my room in fear of her hounding me, not to mention not having my Grandson's come over due to the bad smell now in my house. I stated when I interviewed her that this is strictly a buisness arrangement and she will be on her own. I also mentioned only a non smoker would be accepted. She Smokes const. and has informed me she is a recoveing herroin addict with Hepetitus C, goes to therapy 2 a week. help?

How do I set a Room Mate boundry agreement?
Oh my!!! I think you should kindly remind her of the interview and remind her that you invited her into your home because she said she was a nonsmoker and ask her to go outside from now on.





Chances are you are the best thing that has happened to her and she is really excited about having someone to be friends with. I think that instead of completly trying to avoid her, maybe set up one day a week to talk and go out for lunch or something and tell her the rest of the time you have work to do and you would appreciate it if she could keep to herself. Maybe also suggest getting an air freshner.





Good luck!
Reply:looks like your agreement has been breached, smoking will not be tolerated, she's gotta go...the cockroaches will be damn expensive, I've seen it 1200 dollars for a mobile home! but yeah, I'm sorry that happened to you. Tell her you have found someone else willing to pay more and she has...i dunno, 30 days? to vacate, she'll give you a guilt trip, and that's when you tell her it's just business, nothing against her.
Reply:whoa. sounds like time to find a different room mate. let her know the smell coming from the room is unnacceptable and that she needs to keep her area neat and clean. Make it clear that she is a room mate, not your new best friend and it is not your job to run her errands. wow. I feel for ya. does she smoke inside your house? If so, and you do not smoke, I would get rid of her asap.